How can i change?

Recently one of my friends asked me ,"how can i change?"

i was actually telling her to change her ways of dealing with day to day problems. she usually has a fight with her husband on petty things and then gets irritated even with her children.

i told her , to take things in a positive way.

She said,"giving advice is easier,tell me how can i change?"

I have been pondering over this for the past many days...

a few ideas which has struck me is as follows

1. Positive thinking is a habit. Try to put in positive interpretations to other person's behaviour. for eg: if your husband comes late, think that "may be he is struck in a traffic" and not as "is he having fun with a female collegue?"

2. Ignore : Yes, this one technique is very good if your husband has also a problem of nagging. soemtimes, your husband as well as your children may be shouting at you for no reasons... in such situations , its better to ignore and continue with your work. But usually , women tend to respond immediately, and thus the quarrel continues.

3. Decide that you have to change: This is infact the first and formost requirement. This decision has to come from your side , that it is "you" who has to change. Once that occurs, remaining is easier.

Well.. some more ideas are coming in to my mind...i will write it in my next blog.

regs

CeeVee